Boundaries

Saying NO to OTHERS is saying YES to yourself.

– Anon

Do you find it hard to say NO?

Saying NO is very hard for many people and especially women who have been conditioned from childhood to care for others and put their own needs aside. 

I know this was me – I learned to be a people pleaser. I like the praise and acknowledgement of being a ‘GOOD GIRL’, which I know understand was my own lack of self-worth. I was a MARTYR serving the will of others and allowing my own desires to be pushed away.

This works for a while, but over time I came to resent the role I have fashioned for myself. I would say ‘YES’ – out of habit – and then get angry and frustrated with myself. And to be honest, people would take advantage of my kind and generous nature, which led me to feel resentful and guilty.

Saying ‘NO’ is taking back control and implementing self-love

As an EMPATH and HEALER, it is too easy to fall into this pattern of putting everyone else first. Mothers are also find themselves doing the same thing – until it reaches a point they no longer recognise themselves. They have lost their way – they no longer know what they want/like/desire.

Learning to say ‘NO’ is an important step of the healing journey and following your SOUL PURPOSE. 

The power of NO allows you to channel your energy into doing things you enjoy and boost your energetic systems. Your SOUL wants you to do things that make you happy and bring you joy – as this is fuel for your SOUL ENERGY.

Learn to strengthen your AURIC FIELD to keep your AURA and energy protected.  Choose who you allow in and by reconnecting with your SOUL’S WISDOM, you will intuitively know what is right for you and what is not.

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Empath

 

Empaths did not come into this world to be victims,
we came to be warriors.
Be brave. Stay strong.
We need all hands on deck.

– Anthon St. Maarten

What is an EMPATH?

An EMPATH is a person highly attuned to the feelings and emotions of those around them. Empaths feel what another person is feeling at a deep emotional level.

I am an EMPATH and it has been a challenge my entire life until I finally found out what it meant.

Upon beginning my healing and spiritual journey, I discovered the truth of being an empath. As a child I always felt I was odd or strange in the way I felt so strongly the world around me. This was particularly difficult growing up in the midst of the turmoil and bitterness of 70s Northern Ireland. I struggled with the collective energies of anger, fear and hatred. It was frightening and draining. To cope, I found solace in fantasy novels and sitting up a tree. Over time, I shutdown my emotions following several traumatic incidents which totally uprooted me. Like so many people today, I was a zombie going through the motions of an ordinary life – living a half-life on auto-pilot.

The realisation that I was an ‘empath’, also known as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), was like a light being turned on and I finally understood why I was the way I was.  It was liberating to find out that there were other people like me. And since, then I have learned to embrace my empathic nature as a gift, a blessing from above, to aid me in my own healing work and for working with others.

Finding out that I was an EMPATH
was a liberating experience –

it was a major ‘AHA!’ moment
in my life.

After researching and talking with other supportive spiritual healers, I adopted different ways to protect my emotional and energetic systems. This was vital, as I would find being in spaces with lots of people overwhelming, leaving me drained. Being with negative people sucked my energy like ‘energy vampires’. Thanks to support and learning protection techniques, I started to rebalance my energy and feel stronger. I also had more clarity regarding my life purpose and could make better decisions.

Spending time in Nature is a wonderful
way to replenish your energy
and clear any negative emotional energy
which has been absorbed.

If you wish to know about being an EMPATH, please listen/watch Episode 3 of the ‘Heart and Soul’ show with myself and the incredible Caroline Palmy when we chat about our own personal experiences as empaths and share some simple techniques to help you protect yourself (links below).

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