Pick up your pen and open your heart. Allow the emotions to spill forth, and unburden your Soul. Safe in the knowledge that there will come a point when the pain will start to heal. You will feel reborn.
– Janet Groom
I was inspired to write the book ‘Write to Heal: 10 Ways to use Writing and Words to Boost Your Well-being and Transform Your Life’ as I do the work to clear each layer on my own healing journey. It explores my insights and conclusions of what works for me, as well as techniques which have proved useful for many of my transformational life coaching clients too.
Life has certainly had its ups and downs on my rollercoaster journey, and to many viewing my life from the outside, I look to be enjoying a privileged life living between a typical Swiss chalet in the breath-taking snow-capped Alps, and the UK. I have now written several books. I have travelled extensively, including having lived now in four different parts of the world. To many, my life looks charmed, if not ‘perfect’ with my loving husband and best-friend at my side.
However, much the picture looks rosy, there is a dark side to my life, and if you knew the half of what has taken place, you would be shocked by what challenges life has thrown in my path. When people find out, they don’t quite believe me, and when they realise I am telling the truth, they are surprised at my ‘normality’ and praise my strength of character.
Finding My Way Back
In the book, I talk about these life obstacles and how they caused me to shut-down and survive the daily routine of life in a ‘zombie-like’ state. My heart was ‘walled up’ to prevent the pain from surging through as my heart was on the verge of eruption with all the pent up emotional anguish. I chose numbness over, allowing my feelings to override me. I decided to enter ‘survival mode’ to get through each day.
Some of you may relate to this, but I will warn you at some stage, perhaps not today or tomorrow, the dam will burst, and all those emotions will pour forth — and indeed this is what happened to me after several decades of keeping it all in check. The day came, and my world imploded. The searing pain raced through my mind and body, and I spiralled into a deep dark depression.
With loving support from my husband, along with medication, and my strong will to survive — I managed to crawl my way back to the ‘light’. It was a dark, lonely and scary place, and I never want to go there again.
For a long time, I teetered on the edge of the abyss, and when my equilibrium was rocked, I could feel the pull and spiralling starting. It was at this time; I realised I needed to find my own way to keep myself safe. To find techniques to boost my mental well-being and shift from negative thinking.
What followed was a period of research and study. I explored and learned amazing new techniques and modalities. I found my way to NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), Hypnosis, Meditation, Life Coaching and Energy Healing. I love the way that NLP focusses on the words we use and ways to shift our thinking by reprogramming our unconscious mind. Hypnosis and Meditations allowed my body to relax and find a way back to balance, while Life Coaching supported me to look forward to planning out the life I desired, and Energy Healing connected me to a new way of thinking about the energy in my body and how I was using, or in my case abusing, it.
Time to Change and Time to Write
This new learning formed the foundation of my healing journey, but in reality, it all came together when I wrote my first fiction novel (‘The Naked Knitting Club’); and was the real turning point in my journey. By permitting myself to write, I allowed myself to step into my creativity, and this was powerful.
Writing, in many shapes and forms, has always been with me throughout my childhood to now. I love words and now see their importance in our lives. Our words shape us. I believe in the Power of Words, and know through NLP how important it is the words we use and the beliefs we form.
In my book ‘Write to Heal’ I share ten ways that writing helped me on my healing journey, and techniques I still use today. I am a ‘Work-in-Progress’, and slowly, I am healing, layer by layer. Each step of the journey makes me feel freer and lighter as the burden of pain and suffering eases.
I wrote this book to share my insights and learnings with the world, in the hope that it will support other people on their own healing journey and bring them, step-by-step, to transforming their own lives to enjoy a happier and more joyful life.
My mission, and wish, is to provide some simple and easy to use tools for others to overcome and heal their own pain and suffering.