Quiet people have the loudest minds.

– Stephen Hawkings

What is an INTROVERT?

An INTROVERT is someone who is considered to be shy or reticent with others.

I am an Introvert and this definition does not wholly do justice to the Introvert personality type, we are more complex than people think as we are often highly sensitive people (HSP). We feel emotions strongly and often are serious over-thinkers. This means that the noise in our minds can be pretty loud and when you add in the mix of a highly charged emotional situation – we easily develop sensory overload.

In large group situations, we are challenged to survive the barrage of noise and emotions on display. In order to protect ourselves, we try to find a quiet place to rebalance, or after such an event, we will seek solace in our safe sanctuary to calm down and soothe ourselves. We will be drained physically and emotionally. Many Extroverts do not understand how certain enviroments drain us, while they will feel invigorated (buzzing) after attending the same event.

Introverts are bright people with much to offer the world.
They just prefer one-to-one, or small group, interaction.

By the time I was in my 20s, I had learned the skill of MASKING. It was a mechanism I adopted to help cope with all the challenges and social aspects of my life at that time. I had moved to London, and then to Paris, for work and social engagements were a vital part of the role. Ask most people who knew me back then and they would have said I was an EXTROVERT. However, my close friends knew that there were times when I would need to hide away, needing ‘alone time’ to rebalance and recharge.

As I have gotten older, I know myself better and understand how important it is for me to have space to myself. Boundaries are one way to put up protection and enforcing them is an important part of my self-care. Of course, there are always events or circumstances that you can’t get out off and for these occasions I aim to have time before and afterwards to rebalance my mind and body. Before I walk into a room filled with people, I imagine myself in a bubble of protection to help protect my energy from ‘energy vampires’ and put on my sociable mask. I will admit it does depend on the people in attendance – if it is close friends and people I enjoy their company, then it is less of an ordeal.

Here are some of the things I do to help recover:

  • Sit in my garden in peace and enjoy the nature around me
  • Listen to music that calms me (I love classical piano)
  • Listen to a meditation
  • Walk by the sea
  • Read a book I enjoy (and if I’m really exhausted, I will close my eyes and listen to an audio book)
  • Do some breathing exercise
  • So some simple energy recovery practices
  • Grounding – walk barefoot on the grass, or swim in the sea

These are a few of the things I choose to do, but you might find that putting on upbeating music and dancing alone works for you, or you might prefer to journal about your day.

Being alone is not isolation – it is nourishment
for the Introvert’s Soul

If you wish to know about INTROVERTS, please listen/watch Episode 7 of the ‘Heart and Soul’ show with myself and the incredible Caroline Palmy when we discuss how it is to be an introvert and simple ways to help you cope if you too are an introvert.

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Empaths did not come into this world to be victims,
we came to be warriors.
Be brave. Stay strong.
We need all hands on deck.

– Anthon St. Maarten

What is an EMPATH?

An EMPATH is a person highly attuned to the feelings and emotions of those around them. Empaths feel what another person is feeling at a deep emotional level.

I am an EMPATH and it has been a challenge my entire life until I finally found out what it meant.

Upon beginning my healing and spiritual journey, I discovered the truth of being an empath. As a child I always felt I was odd or strange in the way I felt so strongly the world around me. This was particularly difficult growing up in the midst of the turmoil and bitterness of 70s Northern Ireland. I struggled with the collective energies of anger, fear and hatred. It was frightening and draining. To cope, I found solace in fantasy novels and sitting up a tree. Over time, I shutdown my emotions following several traumatic incidents which totally uprooted me. Like so many people today, I was a zombie going through the motions of an ordinary life – living a half-life on auto-pilot.

The realisation that I was an ‘empath’, also known as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), was like a light being turned on and I finally understood why I was the way I was.  It was liberating to find out that there were other people like me. And since, then I have learned to embrace my empathic nature as a gift, a blessing from above, to aid me in my own healing work and for working with others.

Finding out that I was an EMPATH
was a liberating experience –

it was a major ‘AHA!’ moment
in my life.

After researching and talking with other supportive spiritual healers, I adopted different ways to protect my emotional and energetic systems. This was vital, as I would find being in spaces with lots of people overwhelming, leaving me drained. Being with negative people sucked my energy like ‘energy vampires’. Thanks to support and learning protection techniques, I started to rebalance my energy and feel stronger. I also had more clarity regarding my life purpose and could make better decisions.

Spending time in Nature is a wonderful
way to replenish your energy
and clear any negative emotional energy
which has been absorbed.

If you wish to know about being an EMPATH, please listen/watch Episode 3 of the ‘Heart and Soul’ show with myself and the incredible Caroline Palmy when we chat about our own personal experiences as empaths and share some simple techniques to help you protect yourself (links below).

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